A different kind of Love story: Love is…


Genevieve Finizzia

A surprise birthday party for BMC student, Leah Johnson. The party was thrown by her friends who love her very much, this is the prime example of Philos. (Photo courtesy of Genevieve Finizzia)

Love is… what is love? Who do we love? Why do we love? How do we give love? Most people think of a specific person when asked these questions, but not about the different types of love or things that they can love.

“Loving something is one-sided, but being in love with something should be two-sided,” said sophomore Max Gassner. 

During the search for the perfect definition of love, philosophers, books, and religions had all proposed several different varying answers.

Daniel Kisler
Daniel Kisler and Devki Bhatt making a teacher appreciation breakfast for BMC teachers. This shows, Agape, the greek word for a love of kindness. (Photo courtesy of Daniel Kisler)

Plato– “Any general aspiration towards the good things and to happiness, that’s the Love.”

1 Corinthians 13:4-8– “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”

Nehemiah 9:17– “But you are a forgiving God, gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love…”

Paulo Coelho– “Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused.”

The Lion King“Can you feel the love tonight? You needn’t look too far. Stealing through the night’s uncertainties, love is where they are.” 

Madeline Martinez
Storge is the love between a family, we see this in the relationships between parents and children. In the featured image, Madeline Martinez-Perez and her mother welcome a baby into the family.

Even the past Super Bowl, Super Bowl LIV, had a very interesting commercial about the Greek words for love

Storge which is a love for family. This is usually between parents and children. Philos is the love between friends, the type of love you have for best friends. Eros, known as the romantic love. This is the love shared between two partners, a couple. Agape is a selfless and unconditional love, a sacrificial love. This is a love of kindness, one done for other people.

Christy Tuggle
Heading to a Sadie’s dance for school, Holly Tuggle and her date, Kyle Shields, stop and pose for pictures. Eros is the love shared between a couple, which this couple flaunts in their photo!

Students at Brashier have cultivated their own personal definitions of love.

  • “[Love to me is] something or someone you deeply care for,” sophomore Genevieve Finizzia told the Bengal Beat.
  • “Love means to have the utmost understanding of someone for whom they are. To have the strongest feelings for them that cannot be changed because of one factor but will remain because of how close the people in love are,” added Gassner. 
  • “To me, I think love means when you have a certain affection for a significant other and no matter what you go through, nothing can tear you apart,” said junior Malik Kilgore.

So the definition of love depends on the person and the type of love varies from person to person, but what can you love? The most obvious answer to this question is another person, a significant other. But, there are so many different things you can love.

“[I love my] family and friends… because those people are always there for me when I need it most and I know that I can go to them,” said Gassner.

So for some students, family and friends are something that they love. For other students, there are some things they love other than people. Many people love a certain musical artist, media influencer, or they have a love for religion, a love for their career, and of course there are so many other endless possibilities. 

“Memories [are something that I love other than a significant other],” added Finizzia.

Even though students each have their own opinion on what love is and what they choose to love, they agreed unanimously that love is a necessity in the life of all people.

“I do believe that as humans we can give love unintentionally. We tend to care for people we love to be around and in an unknown way we show affection for a person without knowing it,” added Kilgore. 

In unison, it was also agreed among the interviewees that love can be faked. There can be “attachment” to something or someone that is not real, so this love is a fake love. 

“Pretending to show affection, or to care for them, and then leaving when it gets boring [is an example of how love can be faked],” added Gassner.

Ultimately, no love is the same in magnitude or as to who it is shared between. With the passing of Valentine’s Day, it is important to remember that your expectation of love might not ever be what you receive or give. Take time to realize who you love, what you love, and why. 

Dr. Seuss– “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams”