How to Lose A Guy in Ten Ways

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How to Lose A Guy in Ten Ways

Have you ever wondered what the top ten dating mistakes were? Join me in exploring “How to Lose A Guy in Ten Ways” for a short skit with Michael Causey showing what not to do during a date (Photo courtesy of Ashlyn Athey).

Have you ever wondered what the top ten dating mistakes were? Join me in exploring “How to Lose A Guy in Ten Ways” for a short skit with Michael Causey showing what not to do during a date (Photo courtesy of Ashlyn Athey).

Ashlyn Athey

Have you ever wondered what the top ten dating mistakes were? Join me in exploring “How to Lose A Guy in Ten Ways” for a short skit with Michael Causey showing what not to do during a date (Photo courtesy of Ashlyn Athey).

Ashlyn Athey

Ashlyn Athey

Have you ever wondered what the top ten dating mistakes were? Join me in exploring “How to Lose A Guy in Ten Ways” for a short skit with Michael Causey showing what not to do during a date (Photo courtesy of Ashlyn Athey).

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Hi guys and gals! My name is not Andie Anderson from the movie “How to Lose A Guy in Ten Days,” but it is Ashlyn Athey and I am exploring the do’s and don’ts of the high school dating world! I interviewed ten different Brashier girls on what not to do during a first date and then created a short skit at Panera with my friend, Michael Causey. Click here for the link to my five-minute video. Here’s what I found:

  • Going On A Date At All

“The most common dating mistake is going on a date at all. Instead of people focusing on themselves, they focus on another person. It makes them less independent and more codependent. They also lose sight of their goals in life,” said junior Chloe Brown.

I found that going on a “first date” was not as terrible as some people believe it to be, and spending time with another person you enjoy can be quite fun and memorable. My advice is simply to be adventurous and try going out with someone!  

  • Showing Up Late

“If you show up late [to a date], then the other person thinks that you stood them up by not coming,” said senior Lauren Ervin.

When I purposefully showed up late for lunch, my “date” seemed slightly annoyed because he had waited at the restaurant for a while. My recommendation is to leave at least ten minutes before you think you need to leave to make sure you arrive on time. There is nothing worse than your date thinking that he has been stood up!

  • Not Talking

“If a person does not talk on a date, then [he or she] isn’t interesting, and I wouldn’t want to hang out with someone who isn’t interesting,” said freshman Katelin Finley.

Although I am sure a good amount of high school girls are naturally shy and reserved, not talking to your date can give him the impression that you are uninterested in him. My advice would be to think of conversation starters before your date begins in case there is awkward silence; this way you will be prepared to break the ice. For example, asking your date who his favorite Internet sensation is could lead you into a stimulating discussion and other avenues of discussion.

  • Giving Him Candy

“[The worst thing to do on a date] is to give them candy and say, ‘I hope it’s as sweet as you are,’” said sophomore Bri Hargett.

Giving someone candy may perhaps be one of the cringiest dating mistakes, especially if you accompany the treat with the classic phrase, “I hope it’s as sweet as you are.” I think it’s better to save your candy for the kids on next Halloween, and if you really want to show your appreciation, offer to pay for dinner. Or if you are tight on money (which basically every teenager is), then let him pay for your meal and insist on covering the tip or dessert.  

  • Saying “I Love You”

“Saying ‘I love you’ on the first date [is the most common dating mistake],” said sophomore Nikki Noon.

I think that telling your date that you love him can be wonderfully romantic…just not on the first time you both go out. A first date is really where both people get to know each other better and really decide if they are serious about one another. Saying “I love you” may freak your date out, and  I recommend saving that phrase for a later time.

  • Looking At Your Phone

“Looking at your phone is distracting [to the other person] because you should be trying to get to know the person,” said freshman Natalie Boatman.

Phones are essential in our lives, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with checking the time on a first date. However, some line must be drawn, especially if you spend more time with your phone than with your date. My advice is to keep your phone on silent and tucked away in your purse so that your date has your full attention.

  • Looking At Someone Else

“Looking at someone else [is the most common mistake on a first date] because even when you’re on a first date, you want to have all of their attention. If they don’t look at you, then they don’t want to be in a committed relationship,” said sophomore Nikki Noon.

Although many people’s eyes naturally wander around a room, constantly looking at someone else rather than your date can make you seem rude and perhaps stand-offish. Try focusing on the person in front of you rather than a random guy walking around; this way your date feels respected.

  • Lying

“Lying about your background, hobbies, and anything negative about you [is a dating mistake]. Being catfished by the person you are talking to is terrible” said sophomore Jordan Fanuele.

Even though it may be easier to lie in certain situations during a first date, if you choose to keep seeing your date, sooner or later problems are bound to occur. Honesty is key to any successful relationships and can actually make or break a date. I think if you find yourself on a topic that is uncomfortable or too complicated for you to answer on a first date, try changing the subject or laughing the question off for the moment. It may be better to temporarily avoid a topic until the next few dates when you are ready to respond than to lie about it in the moment  and regret it later.

  • Spilling Your Guts

“Talking to someone about your problems, like a family crisis, right away on a first date is a mistake,” said senior Chanel Teplik.

There’s nothing worse than going on a date with someone who constantly talks about family issues or overreacts to a problem that is happening to them. I recommend keeping personal problems to yourself, at least for the first few dates, so that you can focus on getting to know your date rather than bombarding him with your worries.

  • Bringing Up Ex-Boyfriends

“Bringing up former boyfriends can make [for] an uncomfortable situation, especially on a first date,” said senior Lauren Ervin.

Talking about former boyfriends can often make your guy feel uncomfortable or unwanted. My advice is to refrain from mentioning prior dates to focus on the new adventure that you are embarking on with someone else.

Thanks for watching my short skit with Michael Causey and reading “How to Lose A Guy in Ten Ways!”

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